Rewriting the Rules
An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships
By Meg Barker
Published August 2nd 2012 by Routledge – 198 pages
Description
We live in a time of great uncertainty about relationships. We search for "The One," but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. The reality of our relationships is not what we expected, and it becomes hard to balance it with all the other things that we want out of life. At the same time that marriage shows itself to be the one 'recession proof' industry; the rates of separation and break-up soar ever higher.
Rewriting the Rules is a friendly guide through the complicated - and often contradictory - rules of love: the advice that is given about attraction and sex, monogamy and conflict, gender and commitment. It asks questions such as: which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own?
This book considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways, for example the 'new monogamy', alternative commitment ceremonies, different ways of understanding gender, and new ideas for managing conflict and break-up where economics and child-care make complete separation a problem. In this way Rewriting the Rules gives the power to the reader to find the approach which fits their situation.
Reviews
We all struggle with relationships but now the rules have changed. We need a new rule book, and this is it. - Dorothy Rowe, Psychologist and Writer
Meg Barker reveals, step by step, how unpacking and rewriting the 'rules' can not only free our relationships from the ties that bind us, but also offer a path to deep self-knowledge and acceptance. A beautifully explicated journey to the heart of loving. -Dossie Easton, Marriage & Family Therapist, Co-author, The Ethical Slut
To tackle the dos and don'ts that flood intimate relationships advice, Meg Barker's sharp, insightful, open-minded and friendly guide is here to help you navigate the mazes of modern love. Meg's pen is like a benevolent friend who's hand you don't want to let go. Hold on to Rewriting the Rules - Esther Perel, Author of Mating in captivity
Contents
Introduction. Rewriting the rules of yourself. Rewriting the rules of attraction. Rewriting the rules of love. Rewriting the rules of sex. Rewriting the rules of gender. Rewriting the rules of monogamy. Rewriting the rules of conflict. Rewriting the rules of break-up. Rewriting the rules of commitment. Rewriting your rules.
Author Bio
Meg Barker is a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and a therapist specialising in sexual and relationship therapy. Meg has previously published books on sexuality and counselling and is co-editor of the journal Psychology & Sexuality. You can read Meg’s blog to accompany this book at www.rewritingthe-rules.com.
Name: Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships (Paperback) – Routledge
Description: By Meg Barker. We live in a time of great uncertainty about relationships. We search for "The One," but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. The reality of our relationships is not what we expected, and it becomes hard to balance it with...
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